Traumatic brain injury (TBI) interferes with your life
This post may seem a bit out of the ordinary, but please bear with me. It applies to you, whether or not you know anyone with a traumatic brain injury.
Family is important. The wedding vows say, “For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health…” and we may or may not give any real consideration to the possibilities that we don’t want to have happen. We want only good things to come to us, but that’s just not life.
Traumatic brain injury brings stress
Traumatic brain injury is just one thing that can put a marriage and a person’s commitment and fortitude to the test.
Traumatic brain injury to any area of the brain causes problems. A TBI to the frontal lobe can cause personality changes. It can make a person volatile. It can make every day more of a struggle than it already was. Even if you have a great support system—people you can talk to—it’s still hard.
My husband incurred a traumatic brain injury mid-May 2014. He’s doing therapy. We might not know for a long time if he’s going to recover fully.
Someone who understands the struggles
I know, a lot of people who are trying to build a platform wouldn’t put something like this out there. They might want to hide their struggles and the problems they’re facing. They think it’s more professional that way. I say poo on that. The people I’m trying to attract—the people who want/need my help—aren’t looking for some slick woman in a suit who looks perfect and hides her struggles as if she doesn’t have any. They’re looking for someone who is real, someone who knows what it’s like to hurt, someone who has been on the floor with her head in her hands, crying out for God to fix things, wondering if she’s going to have to do it all herself, and digging down deep to find just one more ounce of strength to keep going when what she really wants to do is give up.
Oh, yes, I have been there, far more times than I could count, so I can relate when some things stink and you don’t know if it will ever get any better. I know what it’s like when there’s just one more unpleasant thing added to your plate, which is already too full. When you email me and pour out your heart about these things, I cry with you, because I know.
So what if it doesn’t create a polished, “professional” image for me to admit these things? You know I care more about helping people than about looking good. Creating a consistent brand is important, and part of my brand is being real, being someone my clients and readers can relate to. It’s not something that was thought up by a marketing consultant and added to the mix because it might work. It’s part of the mix because it’s just who I am and it has to be part of my branding.
Creating keeps you sane
You have your own struggles, too. Whether you are dealing with special needs in yourself, your spouse, or your children, some days are better than others, but they are a challenge. Reach out to people who have some idea of what you’re going through.
Whenever you can, pick up a pen or a paintbrush, even if it’s just for a minute. Write, paint, or do whatever it is you do. Keep creating. It may save your sanity.
If you paint, you might want to keep plastic wrap next to your brushes. Then, whenever you need to jump up to go take care of your injured family member, you can just wrap the brush you’re using in that piece of plastic wrap, and it will be ready for you when you get back.
If you write on a computer, you might want to set it to autosave every few minutes, so there’s much less chance of anything happening to what you’ve written when you have to leave it to take care of your loved one.
No matter what your creative outlet, setting things up so that you can drop it and come back to it later may just keep you sane.
You’re intelligent. What ideas do you have for someone who needs to create but might not have a lot of uninterrupted time in which to do it?