Doug Fields, the author of 7 Ways to be Her Hero, called me a “sneaky lady” for reading this book, but made me laugh out loud several times and nod my head throughout. The book is written to Christian husbands, using scripture—but not too much, like many books do. The author acknowledges that it’s probably a gift book, purchased by wives for their husbands because although “men know they suck,” they don’t buy or read books. The book 7 Ways to be Her Hero tells husbands exactly how to “suck less” and be more heroic where their wives are concerned. Doug Fields writes in plain language, directly and with humor, talking the way guys talk while he lays out the steps to being a better husband.
A book for guys by a guy
I totally understood his humor and what he was saying throughout the book, even though I’m not (biologically, anyway) “a guy.” I expected to be offended at least a few times while reading a book that is “by a man, for men,” but I don’t remember being miffed at all.
Doug Fields said that not all men are sex fiends, and I was glad. Men are told in so many ways by so many sources that “real men” are sex addicts and that it’s expected of them to be like that, and that there’s something wrong with them if they don’t think about it every 18 seconds and want it every day. I think that anyone who participates in creating that kind of pressure needs to stop. I was glad to see this author at least acknowledge it, though he did use sex as an interest-grabber throughout the book.
Be her hero and a better husband in 7 simple steps
For the men who do read it (the author is right, good luck with that one), it could be very helpful. It lays out what the Bible says about how men should treat their wives, and it’s not one of those “Beat ’em over the head because you’re the man and God put you in charge” kind of books. To the contrary, it reminds husbands that they have a huge responsibility and should fulfill it humbly. “To husband” means to care for and provide for, like a farmer does with livestock. There’s a reason farming is called “animal husbandry.” Forget about what happens after the animals are all grown up or done producing—it’s the caring and nurturing part we’re talking about here, and that’s the part that applies to how husbands should treat their wives. Doug Fields calls each husband to the task: rise up and be her hero.
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